| Location | Sunderland |
| Age | 15 years |
| Cause of Death | Organ Failure |
| Date of Birth | 29/04/1993 |
| Date of Death | 01/10/2008 |
| Visitors | 8,643 since 01/10/2008 |
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After a long battle with illness, my son Peter decided he had enough and was ready to rest. He was
the most special son that I could of asked for and I will miss him so much. Fifteen years is just
not long enough but every minute with him will never be forgotten. His baby blue eyes and his
gorgeous smile would just melt your heart. In such a short time he touched so many lives and has
left everyone with fantastic memories. Forever in our hearts and in our memories, always at peace.
Our brave boy
Peter came into the world a little late but left far too early. He was born a healthy baby, our
first child. He had milk intolerance in his first year and the usual coughs and colds but nothing
that would give us any concern.
He was a kind and loving boy that you couldn’t help but love. When he started nursery and school
he was keen to be one of the lads. He loved football and began playing for a team (Bexhill Boys)
when he was just five years old, and went to his first Sunderland match the same year (19th
September 1998 Sunderland 7 – Oxford 0). Peter loved school as he saw it as a great place to
socialise, his effort in his school work was just enough to get by although the teachers always said
he could do better, which he was starting to do in his last years (really well in maths). Peter got
on with most people and any fall out with friends would not last long. He loved girls and had a
steady stream of females at the front door, his laid back nature and sense of humour appealed to
everyone.
Peters first stay in hospital was due to an accident (slipping on the stairs and breaking his leg)
he had to wear a full leg cast but it didn’t let this get him down. In the winter of 2002 he
began to lose his hair, the doctor said that it was alopecia and sure enough in the spring his hair
grew back however in April 2003 we noticed he was bruising very easily. After examination and blood
test by the doctor he was referred to haematology at Sunderland General we were told he had ITP
(idiopathic thrombocytopenic purpura), a blood disorder that effected his platelets that control
blood clotting. A year later his spleen was removed and this seemed to solve the problem however
approximately a year later he noticed a small lump under his arm. It was discovered after a biopsy
that his lymph gland was swollen, then started various infections and low white cell counts, then
the platelet problem returned.
Sunderland General referred Peter to the immunology department at Newcastle General Hospital, and in
November 2006 we were told that his immune system was immature and Peter would need to be observed
at regular clinics. May 2007 Peter attended a scheduled appointment at the immunology clinic, he
was admitted a day later as we were told he had a severe chest infection (pneumonia - we found out
later), in the meantime a scan had been checked (done weeks earlier to investigate a lump in his
eye) it showed that Peter had brain tumour. The specialists thought the worst as he had lumps in
other places, but after several biopsies (neck, brain and lung) it showed that all the lumps were
non-cancerous. The immunology specialist believed that the best option was to give Peter a bone
marrow transplant to give him a new immune system.
Peter left hospital a month later and went back to school happy to get on with everything he did
before. He was disappointed that he could not play football due to the tumour and platelet issue,
he was not allowed to swim either as he now had a hickman line (an access point direct to his main
artery, so the various medications could be given easier). But this did not stop him from getting
on, he never played on his illness and really stuck in at school, performing even better. Spending
time with friends was important to him and some of the stories we have heard since just proved that,
he even came home with a black eye after being knocked in the face during a game of football!!!!!
May 2008 arrived the time for him to be admitted to the bone marrow unit, he was looking forward to
the time he was ‘just normal’. The new bone marrow took really well and Peter was so calm and
laid back, the staff thought he was brilliant. Then a complication set in GVHD (Graft verses host
disease) which can attack the lungs, skin or gut, in Peters’ case it was his gut. He coped well,
the doctors began treatment but there was no improvement. In the August they sent him to Holland,
where a specialist treatment using stem cells was given. A month later he was sent to Holland again
but now things were not good. Peter was so poorly but he didn’t give up, then Friday 26th
September 2008 the doctors decided that he should go onto a ventilator in the intensive care unit.
Saturday 27th September 2008 the worst news, nothing more could be done and Peters’ organs were
shutting down and that we needed to get ourselves prepared. Sunday we had Peter and his brother
christened with close family with us. With only days left I mentioned that I wish I could have
taken him home, as on Peters down times (there weren’t many) he just wanted to go home. The staff
were brilliant and did everything to grant mine and Peters wish. Peter hung on and Wednesday 1st
October 2008 we took our son home to his own bed (still sedated and on a ventilator). The
ventilator was removed after everyone’s goodbyes and his dad I held him as he slipped into his
eternal rest.
Peter’s bravery is an inspiration to those who knew him especially his dad and I, we miss him so
much, our lives will forever have a huge hole in it.
missing you
peter babe this time of year is goin to be so hard for everyone and i cant picture what your family are like at the moment. i year today was when your mam came to mine to tell me you only had a few days left my eyes filled up strat away and i didnt no what to do or say your mam gave me a hug after she told me i it didnt seem like it was going to happen. your adam was telling me all about the new school the other week outside of yours and it felt like you should have been there as well laughing at what he was saying about it. i miss you so much your laugh smaile the talks we used to have everything about you i miss. love from alicia xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
worst nightmare :(
like you mam said the nightmare begins now, i didnt realise that it was this time last year that you went into intensive care babe, i cant remember the exact date that you mam phoned us to tell us that AWFUL news, that day, my whole world crushed around me, this week is going to be SO HARD for everyone, as i was reading them two tributes that your mam & dad left below i had tears in my eyes, i just what you to know that you are always in our thoughts here in ashington, we all miss & love you so much & we all know hard hard its going to be for everyone this week, you will be in everyones thoughts, thinking of the good times, all those parties we had, my mam, dad, kerry & carl sends lots of hugs and kisses your way this week & we all want your mam & dad & adam & the rest of your family & friends in sunderland that we will be thinking about them too, aswell as you, but i especially want you to know that you are my bestest EVER friend, i will always love you, and there will always be a place for you in my heart, that no one will ever replace, you are so special to me, i love you darlingg, never forget you, RIP xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
The worst news
27th September, the doctors took us out of your room and into a quiet room, there they said those phrases that no-one wants to hear "nothing more can be done, you need to get prepared". It felt like we'd been shot in the heart and all the hope that we had been living on just melted away. That night we had to go and tell close family, the hardest was teling Adam that you weren't going to survive (awful).
Even now its unbelieveable, we all miss you so much that it hurts.
Loving you always mam and dad.xxx.
The nightmare begins
One year ago today, 26th September, the doctors announced that you should go into intensive care. This was to give your lungs some support as you were having to work really hard. We still had hope as the staff said this would help you. Seeing you connected to those tubes was awful, we talked to you hoping that you could hear us but we didn't know that we would never hear your voice again.
All parents have dates that bring back vivid memories most good, however, there are some parents that live with the worst memories possible. Those dates can begin to overshadow all the good memories. Peter, this time of year will always bring the worst memories to the front of our minds but they will never stop us knowing that we had a very special son that we miss constantly.
Loving you always, mam and dad. xxx.
peter, i really cant believe its been nearly a year without you! its stll not getting any better and tbh i dont think it will. Still miss you loads and wish you were still here. Can you believe they build a new school after our year leaves. its really nice inside not like the one we had haha it was about to fall down without them bulldozing it! we started college last week, you would have loved it, making new friends and doing something you loved. its just really upsetting when i think that you wont be doing that. i cant imagine how hard it is for your family everyday because i know how hard it is for us. you just have to keep smiling down on us making us feel that little bit better everytime we think of the good memorys we had with you. its going to be really hard on the 1st! not having you here with us will be the hardest thing for everyone. we are all going to do something in memory of you, something you would have liked! banksys got a boxing match on the 1st i think so if he has we are going to watch him and i know you'll be watching and cheering him along and helping him win. i think we all doing the boxing day dip again this year although it was absolutly freezing, i enjoyed it because i new it was all for you! i miss havin you here to talk to, ive got loads of things i would like to tell you! saturday nights are a good laugh, but it would just be so much better if you were there then it would be everyone that is there, tbh i dont really go out but everyone elses does haha. well peter i cant keep me eyes open now im shattered so goodnight darling love ya loadss xxxxxxxxx
New Acadamy School
Mam and Me were shown around your new Acadamy school last Monday night by Adam as it was all year 7 and 8's night. It is a fantastic school and you would have loved it. but you would have been saying "THATS RIGHT GET A NEW SCHOOL NOW WHEN I HAVE LEFT" but you would have been happy for Adam. Adam is so excited about the new school and we are hppy about that. He is missing you so much as we were talking about you as we do everyday on Monday night walking around the school. Whilst we were there we bumped into Mr Geddes and we were talking to him about Adam and yourself. We miss you so so much and you would have been going to college now we miss that waiting for you walking through the door after college and telling us all about your day. It is not getting any easier if anything it is getting harder as I miss you more and more each day as you were not just my oldest son but my best friend. All my love from your broken hearted Dad.
miss you
just thought id let you know, that i had my first week at college last week :D, it was GREAT! im so pleased i got in, first week at kirkley hall on tuesday, for our outdoor stuff, should be a good laugh, met loadsa new mates already, im having loads of fun. i have a mate whos just left ashington to go and live in manchest for 4 years for uni, so today im not in the best of moods, coz its hard, but its NOTHING compared to how i feel when i think about you, i miss you so so much, its so hard for me to be in college thinking, peter should be doing this too but hes not. it breaks my heart, i cant believe its nearly 1 year already, going to be 1 of the hardest days of my life! always thinking of you, and the memories we had together, so many good times, never forget you darling, i love you so much darling, sleep tightt xxxxxxx
Heyya Peter :)
Going upto the van the firstt time next week since last year :/ its going to be weird without you not being there , you and adam coming along and going out on the grass outside the van. The memories we had there are unforgetable ( noticee the big words :D Im getting good :P) When we were in Lauries pining me up against the door and shoving ice cream on my face and that (N) mud fights , the mud was everywhere :| . Our little missions up the hill and in the village for our munchies for the little parrtys and that we had :D :L. Even tho i got bullyed .. i loved going up to Wooler , getting pushed in the pool and get pulled under water :L . Hopee you come and visit me and Laurie when im up next weekend :D , No doubt we will be in the club if Laurie has a say in it :L . Then ill just have to push her in the pool also :D
Loveyou + Miss you loads
x x x
Memories :(
Hiya Peter :)
I can't believe it's coming up to be a year since you were taken from us!! I really miss you so much, there is loads of memories coming back to me at this time of the year, Amy Parker, or the blonde one as we all called her when she came to our caravan, she is staying with us for a while in a few weeks, we've hardly seen each other since we lost you so it'll be nice to catch up and talk about all those times we both shared with you at the caravan. I really, really miss those times and just wish we could have had more :( Remember when we would always go up the hill and along to the village every Friday night for our munchies lol and then just mess around outside the caravans till whatever time of the night, and the "parties" we would have in our caravan me and Amy would have a drink but you could't because of your medication and you said Amy was drunk from the alcohol fumes haha, we always say that now :) and when we sat on your decking and you stuck your head out of the kitchen window and gave me the fright of my life!! You were always good at that mind lol.
We've all started back at school or college and you would have too, this makes it all worse :/ I've started at Kirkley Hall college, doing an animal care course. I know you would have done great at the college you would have gone to :)
Well I hope you pay a visit to Wooler when me and Amy are up, like the good times :) Love you always, miss you loads, night night Matey Xxxx
College etc.
Dont think i commented about my results, but i hope i did you proud (yn), that's all I wanted, to fulfil our dreams and that little promise i wrote in that letter which was left on your heart (L).
I started sixth form today Peter, i was so excited, couldn't wait to get back, I was sick of the holidays.
Being off made me more upset because it gave me more time to think about you and get to grips with the fact you've been took with the angels. I hope they understand, the first October is gonna be really difficult; i should find a way to tell them before hand lol. I think they'll understand :).
I just wish my first day could have been drowned out by your first day. You should have been starting college with me, could have had some right banter afterwards, you probably telling me about all the 'strange' people at your college and me telling you about all the different 'psycho' teachers in my school.
I miss those long nights i used to spend in yours doing absoloutly nothing bar watching disney channel and you eating your sweets/chocolate or whatever sweet food your mam and dad had left in the house ;)I miss that. I miss your mam coming upstairs when we were watching the TV and asking if i wanted tea, I miss having you around when i need someone to talk to, i miss seeing your smile, your eyes, i miss hearing your laugh, i miss holding your hand, your hugs, kisses. i miss walking to yours (or getting the bus on my lazier days lol). i miss your lovely texts you would send, just to say i love you, i miss how you liked to check up on me, and how you would apologise profusely if a text to me took longer than 2 minutes to be sent. Babe, everything about you i miss. I need you back, but i cant have you, :'(
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Keep looking after you Dad, Mam, and Adam. They deserve to be watched over by the one of the BEST angels there is.
I love you babe, all the world and more. Sending all my love and kisses your way, xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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